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5 Ways to Hold Space for Loved Ones When They Can’t See the Light

It can be extremely frustrating when your loved ones don’t feel good, are unable to see your perspective, share your beliefs, or experience true and profound joy in their lives. It can be an emotionally challenging time that's for sure.

I see concern rise in many of my manifesting students when they first start on their “spiritual path” and realize that their husbands (or wives) are on a completely different page. The negativity and pessimism their spouses experience tend to become magnified and they make them wrong for not believing in unlimited possibilities and seeing things differently. There's a beautiful opportunity to learn something from this experience. 

This kind of attitude doesn’t just exist in a so-called “spiritual” capacity either. You could be perfectly happy in your life and experiencing great financial success while certain members of your family or friendship circle could cut you out of their lives because they might be jealous, insecure, not sure how to feel and even indifferent. Again, there's a beautiful opportunity to learn something from this experience.

This kind of “emotional isolation” can also happen in families where there is a presence of addiction in various forms, such as alcohol or drug abuse. The “addict” will remove themselves from the family for various reasons which can be heartbreakingly painful for the parents and other family members involved. I know this one well because I have a relative that has cut me out of their life. It really hurts and concerns me from time to time, but I just have to remember to send them love and hope that life is treating them well.

So no matter who it is in your life that isn’t on the same page as you are right now here are 5 Ways to Hold Space for Loved Ones When They Can’t See the Light…

1. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HOW OTHERS FEEL

This is a tricky one for the “people pleasers” out there. You must make this your mantra and hold your own emotions as still as an oak tree. You do not have emotional control over how another chooses to respond. It’s not your business. Once you truly remember this concept and use it, then you are acting from a place of beautiful self care and respect for your soul.

AFFIRMATION: I am only in control of my own emotions.

2. YOU DON’T HAVE TO FIX EVERYTHING

You are not broken, your loved one is not broken and so if it ‘aint broke don’t fix it. Everything is perfect in its imperfection. Just remember that you can’t sugarcoat situation, protect people from the pain they are destined to experience. When in fact you’re just creating pain for yourself by trying to meddle.

AFFIRMATION: Everything is unfolding in life as it is meant to.

3. FOCUS ON YOURSELF AND YOUR OWN LIFE

Acts of self care need to be your focus. When you learn how to show up in your own life, on your own terms then a certain magic is activated. Take time on a daily basis that is just for you. Being “selfish” is totally fine so that you have more to give to your loved ones around you.

AFFIRMATION: I love my life and look after myself each and every day.

4. SEND THEM LOVE BY HOLDING SPACE FOR THEIR ULTIMATE SPIRITUAL EXPANSION

Close your eyes for a moment and think of the person that’s on a different page to you, holds different beliefs, is someone you have to forgive, is a batshit crazy person that has rattled your cage and SEND THEM LOVE. See the person surrounded in white light and hold space for them to live a life free from distress. See them feeling joyful, safe, secure, prosperous and happy.

AFFIRMATION: I wish for myself what I wish for others.

5. THANK THEM FOR BEING YOUR TEACHER

Lastly, and most importantly, we need to remember that this beautiful Universe is a big mirror. Everything shows up as a beautiful reflection of our own souls for us to grow and expand from as a lesson. Thank your loved one for teaching you compassion, for teaching you humility, unconditional love and for teaching you forgiveness.

AFFIRMATION: I am open to receiving the lessons that the Universe has to offer.

If you would love to try a powerful and transformative ritual that will get you out of your head and into your heart then please check out my Ancient Manifesting Ritual. It shows you how to take time for yourself each day to focus on your goals, dreams, wishes and desires.

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I know without a shadow of a doubt that you’re going to LOVE it. xo