I promise that even if you just give up one of the things on the following list of 15 items, your life will change and you’ll start to feel more happy, healthy and hot in no time. Are you ready? Let’s begin.

You need to give up…

1. Approval seeking

The approval seeking cycle can run pretty deep in some people. Once you learn to see that what other people think of you is none of your business, then your life will begin to blossom and you can breathe a sigh of relief. Own your decisions, don’t second guess yourself and stand strong in your unique perspective on life.

Affirmation: I don’t need your approval. I am enough.

2. Blaming others

The ‘blame game’ can be a natural reflex for people that are always willing to point the finger and not assume responsibility for their role or involvement in certain events or (in most cases) family dramas. Blame is a toxic energy that harms your spirit and sticks to it like shit to a blanket. When you become aware of it and banish blame then you will feel so much lighter, happier and healthier.

Affirmation: I take responsibility for all of my actions.

3. Hanging onto the past

The inability to let go of your past is like keeping it alive in the present. Ask yourself if you want to lug around the same baggage year after year. Or do you want to live in the present moment where the magic happens?

Let it go.

Affirmation: I let go of my past and honour it for helping me to get where I am now.

4. Speaking with food in your mouth and eating too fast

This is a two-part mastication thing to give up. Poor table manners are not very hot. So if you have your mouth full of food then please refrain from speaking – this will make you look hotter than you could ever possibly look spraying burrito chunks all over the place as you are emphatically explaining the details of your day.

And two, slow the eff down and chew your food. All of the magical digestive enzymes that make it a hell of a lot easier on your stomach to break down the meal happen in your mouth before it descends down your gullet.

Affirmation: I eat with consciousness in order to nourish my temple.

5. Thinking you have to be perfect

You are perfect, just as you are. Yes, there are things you can do in order to improve the quality of your life but everything right now, in this very moment, is perfect.

Affirmation: In this moment, I am enough.

6. Judging and ‘shoulding’ on others

My Nana Mollie used to peel the banana from the non-stalk end – really it made no sense. When questioned she would say it’s ‘A way’ and not ‘THE way’ – meaning that there multiple ways to do things in life.

It is our own programming that makes us think we have things figured out better or more efficient than someone else. Actually, it’s pure arrogance to think we have the right to tell people how they should or shouldn’t behave.

Judgement of others is an inability to see that there are infinite perspectives and ways of doing things.

Affirmation: I accept others for who they are and keep my two-cents to myself.

7. Emotional manipulation

Ooh this is nasty. It can creep into your life as blackmail, silent war or most of all entitlement issues that make you feel like you’re allowed to play and toy with someone else’s feelings in order to get your own way.

“Change or I’ll leave you.”

“Grow up or it’s over.”

Ultimatums are very common ways people emotionally manipulate others. And they don’t work, 

Sadly, we know the buttons to push within our loved ones and sometimes when we don’t feel very good about ourselves we know how to go in for the kill and push them in order to get our own way. Sometimes emotional manipulation is so well hidden you don’t even know it’s there.

Affirmation: I promise to remove any and all traces of being a sociopath for the greater good of the people around me – especially my loved ones.

8. Addiction to drama

Oh my god! OMG! Are you serious? Are you effing kidding me? She did what? Oh no she didn’t!

Yes life can be dramatic. As Shakespeare once said:

“All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players: they have their exits and their entrances; and one man in his time plays many parts, his acts being seven ages.”

Being overly dramatic can have serious effects on your life. You get drawn into energy that doesn’t belong to you. You thrive off business that doesn’t belong to you. Lose the drama.

Affirmation: I refuse to unleash my inner drama queen, instead I choose to focus on energy that serves me.

9. Ignoring your intuition

You know, the gut feeling that tells you to follow your heart or avoid a certain path. You need to stop ignoring your inner whispers and listen to the voices (unless they’re saying crazy stuff). By following your intuition you all for things to manifest a lot more easily into your reality. 

Affirmation: I honour and cherish my intuition.

10. Hiding your dreams from your loved ones

Is you vision board hiding under the bed, or behind the door? Own your intentions. You don’t have to trumpet them to the world with a megaphone, but not expressing your desires to your loved ones is a powerful affirmation to the Universe that you’re not ready to receive your wishes. Manifesting requires fearless bravery. 

Affirmation: I am worthy of my goals, dreams, wishes and desires.

11. Feeling the need to be right

Very dear friends of mine introduced me to this question: Would you rather be right or would you rather be in love?

When you let go of your stubbornness and focus on agreeing to disagree you have just discovered the magic recipe for relationship harmony.

Affirmation: I would rather be in love than right.

12. Limiting beliefs, labels and statistics

You might have been told that the odds aren’t good, something isn’t likely to happen or that the statistics aren’t in your favour. Rise above it and hold the belief that anything is possible. Miracles happen every day.

Affirmation: I am a limitless being and anything is possible.

13. Control and safety

Seeking safety and control in the various areas of our life can be extremely cumbersome. It can show up as imbalance in relationships, weird obsessive behaviours and depression. Letting go of the need to be in charge all the time and comfortable can be the quickest path to liberation.

Affirmation: I release the need for control and it feels amazing.

14. Seeking happiness externally

Nothing can make you happy, you choose it from within. It’s not anyone’s responsibility to make you feel a sense of happiness.

Affirmation: I am responsible for my own happiness.

15. Not jumping out of your comfort zone

Feel the fear and do it anyway. Just jump.

Affirmation: I am open to new adventures in my life.

The start of a new year usually prompts people to desire to make profound changes in their life. The typical resolutions revolve around things like weight loss, quitting something like smoking or sugar, being a better person or saving more money – you know the drill.

The truth is that most people shoot themselves in the foot before they even begin, mostly because of the way they phrase their intentions, feel about their intentions and ultimately act on their intentions.

Each year I spend a few hours using the following 5-step process to map out my goals, dreams, wishes and desires for the coming year. For the last 4 consecutive years I’d say that over 80% of the things on the list have manifested or materialised into my reality.

This year we bought a third puppy, moved to the beach, are expecting a baby girl in a few months after 5 consecutive miscarriages, launched new brands, published a new book, attracted various awesome opportunities, travelled to LA for Sean’s 30th birthday, won 2 legal disputes and the list goes on.

The secret to the list I wrote at the end of last year was that I wrote down how I wanted to feel about each item and the experience, buzz or thrill it would give me and the impact it would have on others.

So here is the 5-step process I use to get into the feeling space with setting intentions no matter what time of year it is…

Step 0: Give yourself some space – approximately 30 minutes or so of uninterrupted time just for you. You’ll need a pen, some paper, a notebook or a worksheet. You might also want a nice glass of wine or a soothing cup of tea.

Step 1: Meditate for 10 minutes to clear your heart/mind. Use this invocation:

“May I now be given a clear space within my mind/body/spirit complex to connect with my heart’s truest desires. May I now tune into the greater good for my higher self and allow for my goals, dreams, wishes and desires to flow onto paper.”

Step 2: Itemise the things/experiences you want to create for yourself. Start with 7, or more if you can.

Step 3: Beside each thing or experience write how you would feel when they manifested or you achieved your intention. Would you feel freedom? Would you feel loved? Powerful? Courageous? Sexy? Fierce? Empowered?

Step 4: Action items. Now write one thing you could take action on within the next week that would start the ball rolling in the direction of your goals, dreams, wishes and desires.

Step 5: Trust and surrender. Let it go. Put your list away for a while and hold the essence of the feelings you’re trying to create in your heart as you move forward with the year.

Want more of this stuff? Sign up to the mailing list below to be the first to find out when the new version of my wildly popular course called MANIFEST is launching in early 2015.

Happy intention setting! xo

Ever wondered why people say sorry for certain things when there really is no need to apologize? Or have you ever had someone dismiss you and belittle your feelings saying that they’re not valid or relevant? Well here’s a list of the 10 Things You Should Never Apologize For.

I’m not sorry and you shouldn’t be either for…

1. How you feel

Expressing the way you feel (and I mean really feel about something) is a gift. When you tell someone about the way you feel on a certain subject you should never think twice about apologising for expressing your personal perspective. That is, unless it’s harmful to the other person or intended to manipulate the situation. Letting people know where you’re at and how you feel is so important. If you don’t express your true feelings then they get swept under the carpet and you get sick. Seriously, they will fester and implode within your soul like a stink bomb.

AFFIRMATION: It is safe for me to express my truth and the way that I feel.

2. What makes you laugh

Your sense of humour is your own set-point of uniqueness. The beauty of the human condition is that there are so many beautiful types of humor and no ‘one size fits all’ solution. Whether you laugh at poo jokes, videos of kittens or even Japanese signs with amusing English translation failures – always be unapologetic for what makes you giggle. Life is funny. 

AFFIRMATION: The things that amuse me feed my soul.

3. What you believe in

This should be a deal breaker in relationships. Yes, we know that the fine art of conversation means avoiding the themes of politics or religion – however, if you have to say sorry for what you believe in, no matter what it is, you’re moving in the wrong circles. You have 100% permission to believe in whatever you wish as long as you don’t intentionally hurt people in order to prove a point.

AFFIRMATION: My beliefs are my own and the compass for my soul.

4. Your past

Yes, you might have done a turd and mailed it to a high school bully. Yes, it might have been nearly 20 years ago – however no one can make you say sorry for the silly stuff you did in the past. Unless, it was illegal or the overwhelming need for some sort of exchange of forgiveness to take place.

On the other hand you might have been dating two guys at once when you were younger and your present husband brings it up in fights. The basic rule is this…when something happens before you’re in someone’s life, then technically it has nothing to do with them.

AFFIRMATION: The past is over, the memories are pretty funny though.

5. Your future and your dreams

Never apologise for your dreams or what you want for your future. However, make room for compromise if you are in a long term situation with others so that you’re not appearing to be totally self-involved. Make your dreams happen, never apologise for dreaming.

AFFIRMATION: I allow myself to create an amazing future.

6. Your body or your weight

If you’re apologising for the way your body looks then stop it. You need to own your body –  the shape, the texture, the fact that it keeps you alive and HONOUR IT. Saying sorry to someone because you’re too big, too small, too green…whatever…is harmful to your heart. If someone can’t love you enough to know that perfection is mythical, then they need their soul Photoshopped. 

AFFIRMATION: I am enough.

7. Your children

Unless they are throwing their own poo around in a restaurant or yelling out vulgarities to others, then never apologise for your children. Kids are supposed to behave like kids. And if you do encounter the grouch that speaks up and makes you feel like you need to apologise for your children then gently remind them that they once were kids too.

AFFIRMATION: Kids are vibrant, messy, loud, beautiful souls that need space to be creative.

8. How much you earn

Money is a sore spot and a tender subject for a lot of people. Never feel the need to apologise for earning too much or not earning enough. Money is an exchange for energy, that’s all. So when you’re saying sorry for having too little or even too much, then you are making a very powerful affirmation to the Universe to cease the flow of abundance.

AFFIRMATION: It is safe for me to allow more abundance into my life and feel comfortable to share my wealth when it flows with ease.

9. Your personal/emotional boundaries

You draw the line when it comes to saying something isn’t okay. We should all learn to assert our boundaries and not be apologetic for our decisions that enforce our own emotional safety.

AFFIRMATION: It’s okay, when I say it’s okay.

10. Your sexuality

This one should be the most obvious, kind of like apologising for your skin colour. No matter what your sexual orientation is, you must never need to apologise to someone because of it unless it’s used in the context of ‘Sorry, I’m flattered but I’m a lesbian.’

AFFIRMATION: My sexuality never needs to be explained.

Hope you enjoyed these! If you LOVED this and want more then check out: 10 Spiritual Things You Should Never Apologize For.


(LAW OF ATTRACTION BOOSTER KIT): If you’d like to know how to really set a powerful intention and help it to manifest faster, then you might love my Ancient Manifesting Ritual. This is part of the deep work that I did in order to clear my past and move forward into the future, one present moment at a time.

Law of Attraction Ritual

 

As human beings we find ourselves sometimes overcome with emotion when we least expect it. There can be certain triggers that make us remember and associate with times in our lives when things were tough or emotionally unstable. It could be a fragrance, a topic of discussion, a scene in a movie, or the tiniest thing that you never could have anticipated would melt you into a hot, blubbering mess.

I’m nearly 6 months pregnant at the time I am writing this post and so my hormones have been taking me on a wild ride into random trigger zone. My husband shared with me the most beautiful YouTube video of creative ways that people break the news to loved ones that they are pregnant. Each story was a different variety of excitement – joy, exuberance and celebration. And it triggered me because I had shared the happy news of ‘I’m pregnant’ not once but 6 times in a 12 month period. It brought up all of the joy and fear and uncertainty – a nasty concoction of inner turmoil. This simple trigger prompted the tears.

Another example was a nasty text message from my ex-husband telling me how selfish I was for going on a 9-day holiday (without the kids) to Los Angeles last month. The trigger of emotional abuse reared her ugly head and I had a panic attack in the middle of the night.

The thing about triggers is that they can snowball, you can blow them out of all reasonable proportion and launch yourself onto a warpath unneccesarily.

My basic plan is to step back and witness the emotions and not charge them energetically. So here are my 5 simple tips to riding the wave of unexpected emotional triggers.

1. Talk to someone if it helps, but be aware of any way you are dramatically charging the topic and clinging to it. Sometimes forcing yourself to be still and focus inwards is the best solution.
2. Use the identification of triggers as a great opportunity to re-wire them and create new memories of how strong you are to have overcome them.
3. Remember to breathe, be present and do something that distracts you and makes you feel balanced again.
4. Make sure you are taking care of all the basics such as drinking water, getting enough sleep, exercise and loving time with your loved ones.
5. Keep a journal to document what you are feeling and then release it to the Universe. Sometimes getting your most ugly emotions out on paper is an excellent opportunity for reflection and ultimately healing.

The picture on the right is of an orchid my dad gave me for my 33rd birthday back in 2012. It bloomed once and then dried out. I’d kept the plant, despite its withered appearance and watered it (rarely) thinking that one day it might come back to life and grow flowers again. I was on the verge of throwing it away, when I had the idea of seeing it in my mind’s eye blooming beautiful orchids once again. Sure enough, two years after it had shown any sign of life, it’s now flowering and I feel that this is a huge correlation to the story that follows…

If you’ve ever had a miscarriage you’ll know how easy it is to blame yourself and wonder whether or not it is something you did that caused the loss. Just like my orchid, you’ll wonder if you have the right environment for new life to grow. What I know now is that it’s a delay and not a denial and that everything has a Divine plan. 

If you’ve followed my story you’ll know that I’ve had 6 miscarriages in total, five of them happening in a 12 month period. I’m really toying with the idea of writing a book about the whole experience because I have honestly learned so much. Just as there is more than one way to skin a cat (such a horrible saying), so too are the various ways you can experience a miscarriage.

I literally had hundreds of different women (and a few men) writing to me with ideas (and some concerns) about what I should be eating, drinking, thinking and contemplating. I had help from healers, shaman, witches and mother nature experts all over the world. I consumed green juices, purchased expensive herbs and lotions and looked for signs that my soul baby was ready to finally come through.

Each loss was different and yet the feeling of failure would worsen. Honestly, 2014 has been one of the hardest and shittiest years of my life. However, it’s also been one of the best. Go figure. 

In June, my husband and I decided to move to the beach (Noosa) to reclaim some presence that had been sorely lacking from our time in Melbourne. We knew a fresh start would be the best thing in order to take a break from ‘trying’ to make a baby. Our souls needed to re-set, recalibrate and figure out a way to move forward somehow. The agony of loss after loss had made our first year of marriage strengthen our love, but wilt our exuberance.

This is a scan of Little Miss Prout-Simpson measuring 22 weeks and 2 days. We have chosen a beautiful name for her that we can't wait to share in just 16 or so weeks. 

This is a scan of Little Miss Prout-Simpson measuring 22 weeks and 2 days. We have chosen a beautiful name for her that we can’t wait to share in just 16 or so weeks.

Within 10 days of living by the ocean I fell pregnant with the daughter I am due to give birth to in March 2015. Our prayers were answered. 

Before we moved states, I had seen so many doctors and specialists at the Recurring Miscarriage Clinic in Melbourne. However, it was when I found a local GP here on the Sunshine Coast that asked if I had ever been tested for the gene mutation called MTHFR that I knew I was on the right track. However, by the time I found her I was already pregnant, and if I had heard the results of my test before I fell pregnant then I probably would have given up all hope and stopped trying. You see, the statistics were pretty bad odds and after all of the losses I just wouldn’t have been strong enough to face it all again.

MTHFR and Auto-Immune Disease

It turns out the doctor found the physical reason I wasn’t able to grow a baby past 9 weeks gestation. We all have two MTHFR genes, one inherited from each parent. Some people have a genetic mutation in one gene – referred to as a heterozygous mutation – or a mutation in both genes, which is referred to as a homozygous mutation. I have a mutation in both genes which means my ability to process folate, which is vital for baby growth is all screwed up.

Luckily early intervention with super-dooper doses of vitamins and regular shots of B12 helped me to get over each scary milestone. In theory, this pregnancy is a miracle. With my age (35) and my genes working against me, it seemed unlikely that we would see a healthy result. Early on I experienced bleeding, but after 3 solid months of morning sickness I knew that this baby was growing.

MTHFR research is so new that not many doctors know that it can be the culprit for fertility issues such as a recurrent miscarriage.

There are things you can do to manage MTHFR such as having a special diet and other things to avoid, but that’s a blog post for another day, or perhaps a book.

On the flip-side of this baby making coin, however, I need to acknowledge the inner work that needed to be done in order to allow the baby to grow and stay with me. 

I really feel that cultivating worthiness and letting go of pain from the past is imperative in order to move forward. Just like seeing the orchid grow flowers again, I held the intention that Sean and I were destined to make a baby.

For me, I made peace with the fact that I already had two beautiful children that made it into the world despite my mutant genes. I was thrilled to know that this is probably the reason I miscarried at 16 weeks when I was just 20 years old. It also explains why it took me nearly 4 years to fall pregnant with my daughter.

I truly believe that with a combination of understanding the physical aspects of our bodies and cherishing and understanding the metaphysical side to ourselves that it is the key to unlocking rich and fulfilling outcomes no matter what they might be.

The biggest lesson was the power of becoming comfortable with uncertainty and letting go of the outcome. If anything, MTHFR is in my awareness to remind me to take better care of myself.

If you’d like to know more about MTHFR please visit here. Alternatively, if you’ve suffered a miscarriage and need support please visit SANDS.

It’s A GIRL!

 

I just realised that I didn’t write a post to announce that I found out that I am having a baby GIRL!

When I wrote this post a few weeks ago I had just taken the Verifii test to see if everything was okay and to also confirm the gender. I was so surprised how far technology has come since I had my daughter nearly nine years ago. To think you can find out all of this stuff from a simple blood test.

I waited patiently all week for the results, and then it was late on a Friday afternoon and I swear I developed super-sonic hearing. I’m not kidding, I heard my phone buzzing on silent from inside my zipped handbag about eight metres away! As soon as I plunged into my bag, it already displayed ‘1 missed call’ on the screen. I knew it was my doctor and I also started to panic because the office was just about to close for a three-day weekend!

I called back immediately at 5.01pm and to my surprise the doctor answered the phone from the front desk on her way out. She told me everything came back perfectly ‘normal’ for the chromosome tests and that I was having a girl. Yep, two little XX chromosomes.

I ran back inside all shaky and excited and walked into our office to tell Sean (my husband). It was one of those moments where he just knew that I found out something life changing.

“We’re having a baby girl.”

After all of the trouble we’ve had in the last year I didn’t care at all whether it was a boy or a girl, but now I’m super-excited and happy to start the nesting process. My kids are really happy as well to have a new little sister on the way in March 2015.

A few months ago we made the decision that we needed to move to a tropical location and live by the beach (from Melbourne to Noosa). Our plan was to start to heal from the emotional pain and trauma of loss after loss. I had 5 miscarriages in about 8 months and I felt like a failure. My body was burnt out, my soul felt tired and it was time for a fresh start. My dearest wish was to work on the pain that had occurred and rid myself of the energy that was holding me back. Thanks to the special help of a couple of very unique healers, I was able to slowly get to a space of hopefulness.

After the first three losses I was offered placement at the Recurring Miscarriage Clinic at the Mercy Hospital to figure out the cause. I had numerous tests that all came back as inconclusive. All we knew is that that baby I lost in May was due to a chromosomal issue (like most losses) and that it would have been a girl. The others were ‘just rotten luck’ as one of the doctors had explained.

After the 5th loss I was keen to give my body a break, so my husband and I decided to be more ‘careful’ since he could pretty much sneeze on me and get me pregnant. However, all it takes is once and boom…magic happens.

Ten days after we drove 23 hours to move from state to state, I peed on the pregnancy test because I ‘just had a feeling’ that something might be different. Sure enough the miraculous two pink lines showed up and I knew we were in for another wild ride.

Of course my mind was racing with fear from week to week. Each day was a milestone. At around 6 weeks I started to bleed. It was an all too familiar episode.

Tears were flooding and I was so afraid that I would lose another baby. Sean (my husband) and I headed off to the hospital emergency room to figure out what was going on.

Considering I was pretty much an expert at miscarriages at this point, I knew that bleeding ‘always’ meant that things would be taking turn for the worst. I knew the drill – no heartbeat, slow heartbeat, no growth, no foetal pole – time for a D & C, perhaps Misprostal (the abortion drug) or a natural loss that feels like excruciating period pain.

The wait at the hospital to see a doctor can sometimes take hours of arduous waiting and waiting. The time drags – the dog-earred old magazines are filled with happy celebrity baby stories which are like rubbing salt on a wound.

After a few hours Sean had to leave to pick up the kids from school. I was feeling okay and told him that I knew what to expect and I would be fine.

Another hour passed and I decided to take out my phone and write message to the baby. This was an attempt at calming myself and getting my heart into a good space of being open to all possibilities.

It’s going to be okay. I love you. Be safe. I’m grateful for you. I’m grateful to god/the Universe no matter what happens. It is my honour to carry you. No matter what the outcome I am here, I am well, you are safe.

Then my name was called.

I went into the cubicle and explained my story to the doctor. They always ask if it’s IVF since not many people at my age (34) can conceive so easily and regularly. I was then taken down for an ultrasound – the final frontier, these things were always so definitive.

Sean wasn’t with me and I was kind of happy about that because I didn’t want to put him through the emotional pain again. I just knew that things weren’t working out, or so I convinced myself.

The technician inserted the probe. Oh gosh, it was one of those internal ultrasounds that gives you a really good look since everything in there is pretty tiny. 2014 is officially the year where the most about of people have seen my vagina – records have been broken *laugh*. 

The time slows right down to at snail’s pace when you’re at a crossroad like this. It’s a make or break slow motion experience where you have to hold your breath and hope for the best.

And then…

“See that, that boom boom boom? That’s the heartbeat!”

5 weeks 3 days and I got to see the heartbeat, 100 beats per minute.

I couldn’t stop smiling. I couldn’t believe there was life in there.

When Sean arrived I was sitting on the hospital bed grinning from ear to ear like an idiot, which really confused him. He was so relieved!

Everything looked fine and so the next leg of the waiting game would unfold. Apparently I had a ‘subchorionic hematoma’ which was a pool of blood in my uterus. The doctor told me it’s 50/50 chance of survival when these happen.

At about 6 weeks I had a second set of blood-work taken and my HCG levels were rising nicely. It was about this time that the morning sickness started to kick in with a vengeance.

I would literally have to carry plastic bags in my handbag in case I needed to throw up while I was out. Most of the day I felt dizzy, the smell of food would make me gag and all I could eat was 2-minute noodles because they were pretty easy to throw up. Even my days as a bulimic didn’t train me for morning sickness. I ‘thought’ I had it with my son and then got it worse with my daughter, but nothing like this. Absolutely nothing like the feeling of being perpetually ill and hugging the ‘porcelain pony’ several times per day. I know people that have experienced ‘hyperemesis gravidarum’ where it’s so bad they have to be hospitalised – just like the Dutchess of Cambridge. I’m pretty lucky it didn’t get to this, but there were many tears, tantrums and moments of desperation. It’s so hard to feel grateful when your stomach is churning and you’re too tired to lift your head off the bed. I just had remain focussed and keep my eyes on the prize.

Cooking food of any kind in our house has been kept to a bare minimum over the last 7 weeks, and only now and am I starting to emerge from my bed and feel a little bit normal again. Ginger beer and salt crackers have been my faithful friend.

Baby Prout-Simpson

(baby Prout-Simpson arriving mid-late March 2015)

When I hit 12 weeks I was so happy. Apparently the likelihood of miscarriage is really low. Our ultrasound showed a perfectly perfect little being that actually measured 4 days more than we thought. The baby had 10 fingers, 10 toes and long little legs. He/she had the hiccups and was sucking his/her thumb! I’m also starting to show now a little too.

frame73c88539110b7ee85722600cb08a692a7d685000

(this is my first baby bump photo)

There was a minor concern with some of the bloodwork and the measurement of the Nuchal scan so I had to do another round of prenatal testing called the Verifii test. The doctor assured me that everything looks okay and she just wants to be sure in order to put my mind at rest. Sean and I made the decision that we will have this baby no matter what.

So this week will will know for sure if everything is okay and if our baby is a boy or a girl. I am so excited to get that phone call! I’ll probably announce it on Facebook so watch this space. The response on Facebook from our family and friends has been so overwhelming, Sean, Thomas, Olivia and I feel incredibly grateful.

In summary, it’s crazy to think that in the last 12 months I have been pregnant for 10 of them. And now at a little over 13 weeks I am so thrilled to feel hopeful that one day I’ll finally hold this soul baby in my arms.

It’s proven that meditation has fabulous health benefits. Not only does it reduce stress levels and release happy hormones in your brain, but it means that you feel engaged and connected to a higher power.

Being connected to our higher selves is so important. Whether you called it Force, Source, God, The Universe…whatever…meditation is a way to recharge the soul batteries and take a chill pill.

If making yourself meditate isn’t your thing, then check out the following 5 ways your brain will roll into Alpha and give you similar effects with little or no effort.

1. During sexy-sexy time

You’re relaxed, surrendered, fully present (sometimes) and participating in an act of love. Sex (lurve making) is an excellent way to connect with your own soul and/or the soul of your soulmate.

2. In the car

When you’re on the road sometimes it’s so easy to drift into a space of mindfulness where you’re aware on the traffic conditions (for safety) but you’re also allowing your mind to drift into a peaceful space of surrender.

3. Playing with your pets

Animals are the Universal ambassadors of joy. When you connect with your pets then you are meditating because you’re being fully present with them. It’s not like your dog will hold a grudge about the past, they are fully here now and wagging their tails. Go on, wag your tail.

4. Being in nature

As I’m writing these words I can hear birds singing and the roar of the beautiful ocean outside my window – the sun has just risen over the water.

Whether it’s feeling your feet on the sand or walking through a garden smelling freshly cut grass or watching butterflies flutter around you – try and appreciate the nature around you.

When you are in wonderment of it then you tune into its vibration and it becomes your meditation.

5. Waiting in a line

Instead of feeling ticked off or grumpy that you have to wait in a queue at the post office why not turn it into an opportunity to cultivate presence? Observe the beauty all around you and see the humanity. A friend of mine once told me that infinite patience gives you immediate results.

COPYRIGHT © 2017 SARAH PROUT/SOUL SPACE MEDIA LLC